A love triangle should be a sexual position, not a plot device. It’s just a way to contrive drama, that really, more often than not, kind of makes you hate the main character just a little bit. I just want to reach into the book, grab the heroine by the shirt, and growl, ” Look, sister, we ALL know you don’t give a crap about that other guy who’s helping you out while your true love, who’s a total douche bag, btw, tries to figure his shit out.” I almost always side with that poor third wheel who really could do SO much better than some fickle bitch who’s just using him to temporarily make herself feel better.
Do I think it’s possible for someone to love more than one person at once? Absolutely. In fact, I’d wager that it’s more common than faithful monogamy, although no one seems to want to admit it. I can’t EVEN tell you how many of my married friends are fucking someone else. ( Seriously, I can’t. I’ve been sworn to secrecy.) A LOT of married, middle-aged couples fuck around on each other, some knowingly, some not. Open relationships and multiple partner relationships are on the rise, and I think that’s a good thing.
I’ve heard a lot of people say that they couldn’t be in that kind of relationship, because they’d be too jealous. It’s not for everyone, but it’s certainly a better alternative than screwing around and lying about it. Personally, I don’t think there’s one way to love, and I think that no matter what kind of love you choose, it should begin by being true to yourself. I KNOW, cliche, right? But seriously, all of that false morality and keeping up of appearances just leads to lies, secrecy, heartbreak, and novels with terrible plots.